Dionne L.Brown: Blogs

I haven't been feeling quite myself these last few weeks, just not jiving like i usually do. My pastors wife reminded me of the times before when i would tell her about all these revelations i would get from the Lord and she said remember how you use to fast at least twice a week every week, what happen to all that? Thinking about it, I felt like Austin powers, I had lost my mojo, and had to get it back, well let me tell you how good God is, I started back my routine, last week, the fasting and the walks on my break at work, just meditating on the things of the Lord. I am staying focused, sometimes we can get so caught up on things that really don't matter. I had lost myself and just didn't know how to get back. It was weird, i would be sitting on my bed on a perfectly clear and beautiful day and would just cry, thinking i was missing out on something, when in actually God has everything i need. Everything in its own season, it will surely come, because He that promises is so faithful. I was listening to that song Grateful, could not tell you who sings it but I love the lyrics"I am grateful for the things that you had done, grateful for the victories we've won" that songs just moves me, well i am back and ready to do what ever God has planned, distractions are gone, at least the ones that had me bound, time to work, hence my motto, "i've got work to do" Kingdom work, ministry minded. God Bless you all.

In this day and age, whether you are a Christian or not, the lack of accountability is very present. It is so hard now days for couples to stay toghether, even harder for Christian couples in this world. The laws make it so easy for any couple to just take leave of their marital responsibilities. It is easy to get married and easier to get a divorce. Marriage is no longer a lifetime committment; it is now considered, "if it suits me for this moment, i will stick with it, if not oh well".

It is a shame that no one really tries anymore, no one is really concerned. We have marriage counselors who are quick to say " no help here, ok to divorce". We have Christian leaders who don't even lead by example anymore. There are some who have good intentions, but still don't do the right thing. Most churches are now requiring engaged couple to go through at least 8-13 weeks pre-marital classes before the pastors will even perform the ceremony. The world we live in today is failing in committment and responsibility, no one is holding us accountable, no one but God.

I found in the Bible several scriptures that speak sternly on the commitment of marriage, one that comes to mind is Eph. 5:25 " Husbands love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it" Now no where in the Bible does it say Jesus got fed up ,couldn't take it anymore and walked out on his bride the church, no matter how crazy, we the curch can get. Jesus took more mess from the church than any man or woman, ever took from his or her spouse, but did Jesus walk out on us? I don't believe her ever would.

The devil is after our families and our homes and we have so many other things fighting against us. We as a people, the body of Christ, need to seek God for our relationships, with our spouses and our family members. Man cannot help you, we need Jesus to be our help, to be our salvation. We need to lean on God for our marriages. God needs to be the center of the marriage, the center of our lives. We need to seek God daily and let him lead our lives.



Dionne L. Brown

More to come, this is a series I wrote after my divorce. God Bless

Answer these two questions:



1. What does it mean to you to be a husband?

2. What does it mean to you to be a wife?



Marriage is hard, but if we are willing to make the effort then we have already won half the battle. Now a days people are looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right, the person God has for you could be right in your face and the problem is not them, its you. You may not be right in your thinking, you may not be right with God. When God sends you a mate, you must trust that God picked the right person, just because things don't go like in the fairy tales, doesn't mean that your mate/marriage isn't meant to be, its not a total failure, it may need more work and more prayer. God could be very well testing your faithfulness and your committment skills. How you handle your marriage and other family relationships, will show how you will possibly handle Gods people (ministry).

In our world today, whether you are Christian or not, it is hard being married, but isnt something worth having worth fighting for? There can be some great rewards after all of your hard work (together). Sometimes the hardest situations help us to build character, and help us to become wiser. In the Bible, it says God finds marriage honorable (Hebrew 13:4). Love and Happiness are wonderful things and when you find it you should do what it takes to hold on to it, don't let anyone especially the devil take it away from you. God gave that person to you, so fight for them. There are so many marriages in turmoil, being ripped apart, the devil is after our homes and our children are at stake. Why don't we fight back, make the devil flee, make him run and hide from us. I often wonder if the committment marrried people make really matter. The word committment means: to entrust or something pledged. God owns everything and he gave us certain things to take care of on this earth, our jobs, homes, cars, children, and yes, our marriages. We are to be good stewards over what God gives us; we need to take special care of what God owns.

I was once told, that what the devil meant for bad, God will turn it around for our good. I am living proof, I was married, it was very hurtful when everything fell apart, but to God be the glory, here I am today, wanting to ensure that marriages don't get tricked by the enemy, I need for you guys to fight the enemy and save your marriages. Trust God, he will save marriages and families.



God Bless

I believe marriage to be a great institution when its done right, with the right God given person, and with the proper 8 -10 weeks of counseling, yes that's what i said. Ok here I go, this burns me up when you got pastors marrying youngster, who haven't even lived life yet, and mature folks as well. Ok so if you have to married them please counsel them well, this back and forth garbage, i love you, I hate you, i am single, i am married its nauseating. Ok so this is how we do it, again I love the institution of marriage, was i married to the right person NO!! will I marry again YES!!! with the right God given man. I hate divorce, just like God, it messes up every ones lives, makes the kids a lil crazy, but prayer works. Ok I really hate to say this, if you won't let God help you and get the right counseling from the right preacher........ then give it a rest, stop the back and forth crap, i am so serious, because now you got some bitter female out hating men, and you got some man who can't stand to be alone, bringing drama to other peoples lives. In the words of India.Arie.......Get It together!!!!!!!!

Ok I got some news today that a friend of mine, is ending her marriage. I fasted and prayed for this couple earlier this year, and just hoped that everything would work out. I was sad, but she seemed relieved, I had to ask, well her response was, "I am no longer in bondage, I can be me again". Hold on!!!! what do you mean? why weren’t you being you all along? Well I can answer that for myself, sometimes we try to please people for all the wrong reasons, sometimes you just don’t want to be by yourself so you do things to make the other person happy, some may call it comprimising, or you have been in many failed relationships and just can’t bear another so, you do whatever it takes to make it work, even if it means losing yourself. I guess what I am trying to say, ladies and men alike, do you, cause when you try to be somebody else, to please someone else, it just doesn’t work. Somtimes we move too fast in relationships, if we waste too much time we will miss the one good thing, not so, God knows just what we need when we need it. Like me I am really just discovering who I am in the Lord, and that is a journey with in itself. I want God to be very pleased with me and then I want to be pleased with myself, be true and real to myself. Its a hard world out there and we have too many people playing games. People be yourself, take your time and really seek God for everything in your life. Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not to thine own understanding, acknowledge HIM in all your ways and HE shall direct they path.

This is a subject that has been on my heart for a while now, my friend told me that her Pastor preached this subject a few months back. It really made me think, because i know we can believe God for somethings, a house, a car, a job, but why is it, when there is something we really want, i mean a deep seeded desire, we flake out on God and don't think he will give it to us. i am speaking from what i am experiencing now. i see gods promises coming to pass in my life even somethings that were prophesied to me, i see it happening, so why is it that i have a lil doubt on the one thing? Is it becasue i am scared it will really happen and I don't know how i will handle it (with great love)? Well any way when my friend was telling me all this about the sermon, it just brought a lot of things to light, again i know God is blessing my ministry becasue i see it happening before my very eyes, but what about that mate i desire? He's working on that too, but because its not happening as fast and the way i think it should, i am a lil nervous, apprehensive, that He (God) won't come through for me, maybe because i messed up the first time around, maybe i still need to get over the hurt and pain of past rejections, maybe i need to love me more first, before He will completely let this man stay in my life for a lifetime. I didn't mean to go there, but since i did, i am learning to trust God more and more. i don't want to wander around the wilderness like the Isrealites did, after all the marvelous wonders God did in their presence, they still chose to murmur, to seek other gods, whats up with that? You let me see God split any sea, its a done dadda, lol. Ok, but someone tell me why, why can't we just trust God completely. God is so awesome, i am watching him work in my life and the lives of those around me, I really have no choice than to believe, I got too. The true believers please pray for me, God Bless you all