Dionne L. Brown: Blog

I do care.

Posted on April 3, 2011 with 1 comment

I once had a man tell me, that it was hard for him to believe that someone wanted to care for him or even think about him. I thought is was a line he was using, but then i started hearing other women saying this about the men they were dating or just breaking up with. Why is it, that there are men out there, that can't believe a good woman, can love and appreciate them. I get the fact that, in past relationships, men and women alike have been hurt, abused or mistreated. My only issue here is, I'm not the woman before me, I'm me and if you don't give yourself a chance to get to know me, really see who I am, not only are you short changing yourself, you doing the same to me. Obviously I saw, enough in you to make and take the time to want to get to know. OK, so we all can't be dating the same wounded man, I really want to know, what is it with men, that make them very skeptical about the new woman, why won't you give her a real chance? You have to know that shes not your ex-wife, your ex-girlfriend, or your crazy baby mama. Men, women have the same issues, but we can bounce back so quickly, why can't you?

Tim

April 3, 2011

I think that for some men, it's really hard to keep going far enough into a relationship to know your partner because it takes risking becoming attached to someone who may hurt you again. I went through this process over and over when I was you er. Each time my confidence in myself was diminished til I was hopeless. I didn't think it could happen. A man may never admit that, but just like many women, I think that they go through this. You gotta roll those dice but you also have to embrace the outcome, no matter what comes.
-Tim